Janet Elizabeth Akyol, LMFT, CSAT - Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, MFC 51250

Love Addicts, Sex Addicts, Partners, Betrayed.  It hurts.  We can help.
My heart goes out to all of you who are, or were, partners of a sex addict.   I know that the betrayal perpetrated against you has caused intense pain, and that your entire world has been turned upside down and inside out.  I want you to know that there is hope and healing for you.  You can move beyond this pain, whether you move on alone or together with a recovering addict.  Please know, you didn't cause the addiction, you can't control it either, but you can heal from the devastation it has left in it's wake.

Therapy Groups For Partners

The partners support group meets weekly.  In the company of other partners, get the tools and support you need in order to move forward with your own healing.   You are not alone!  The group is invitation only, so if you are interested in joining, please call to inquire when the next opening will be.

Books for Partners
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope & Heal by Barbara Steffans PhD.  This is a very good book for partners, and it is one of the recommended first reads for my clients struggling with a sexually addicted significant other.  I personally think it is *the* book.  Dr. Steffans is a very compassionate and intelligent clinician, educator, advocate and champion for partners. 
Written for partners of sex addicts, by Stephanie Carnes, PhD., and other notable authors.
Facing Heartbreak:  Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts  by Stefanie Carnes, Mari A. Lee, and Anthony Rodriguez.  A workbook, written by renown experts in the field of sexual addiction, offers a structured way for partners to find healing from the devastation of sexual addiction.
Intimate Treason by Claudia Black and Cara Tripodi.  A self-help workbook for those in relationship with a person struggling with sexual addiction.
Sex, Lies, and Forgivenessby Jennifer Schneider
Couples speaking out about recovery from sexual addiction.
Relationships: from Addiction to Authenticityby Claudine Pletcher and Sally Bartolameolli
Back from Betrayal, Third Edition  by Jennifer P. Schneider
Great Betrayals, a New York Time article by Anna Fels, MD.  A very good article regarding betrayal, lies and how one was robbed of one's reality.

Websites for Partners
http://www.posarc.com/   A resource center for partners of sex addicts (trauma model).
www.sexhelp.com   A resource for information and online tests.
S-Anon meetings  12-Step groups for family members of sex addicts.
COSA  12-step group for those affected by another persons sexually compulsive behaviors.
For The Couple
A great little book that offers practical techniques for couples and families who have struggled with addiction, to bring health and vitality to their relationships